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He’s 2, She’s 5. Where Does the Time Go?

By: Davida Brown

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April is the birthday month for my babies. Not only are they three years apart, but two were born on the same day (my stepson and daughter, Simone) and Grant was born 5 days later. With all the hustle and bustle of the month, I had to make myself stop and reflect upon these Birthday milestones.

Five is a major milestone. Simone is no longer a toddler. Where did the time go?! I love how independent she is now and how she’s able to digest and use new information so quickly. Her vocabulary, in both English and Spanish, is expanding daily. I can’t believe some of the words she utters, and even more so, that she uses those words in the right context. We have such in-depth conversations now. Huge difference between 4 and 5 for this young lady. I love how her personality is developing. She is truly blossoming, just like all the April flowers.

Grant is reallllly a toddler now. Okay okay, he became a toddler at 1, but in my mind, he was still a baby up until, yep this morning. Where did my baby go? Sniff Sniff. And my big boy is such an alpha male!!! He walks into a room and commands attention, without saying a word. His inquisitive nature tickles me. I can’t wait to see what’s in store for my little man.

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Raising a Girly Girl

By: Davida Grant

Simone is 4

The title says it all. Baby girl is a girly girl. And in every way folks. She loves dolls, clothes, shoes, accessories. She’s dainty. She hates bugs. She refuses to kick a ball. In this respect, I can’t relate. Yes, I have some girly qualites, but a girly girl? That, I most certainly am not.

This morning to her chagrin, I dressed her in shorts and a t-shirt. Simone was pissed. She hates wearing anything other than dresses. In fact, her first question EVERY morning is, “Mommy, dress today?” After her tantrum (yep still in that phase folks), we were headed out the door when she said, “Mommy, boys wear pants. Girls wear dresses.”

I have no idea where she got that information. “Mommy” wears pants all the time. But her comment gave me pause. I started thinking about “roles.” My husband and I are old-school/traditional (whatever nomenclature you’d like to assign) in that we do believe that boys and girls are different. There are certain things I don’t want Simone to do because I don’t think it’s appropriate for girls. Case in point, she can’t sit any which way she feels. Her legs need to be closed. Period. But, I don’t want to stifle her in any way. I want her to explore everything, question everything. But how do I reconcile that with my values and my faith which make distinctions between girls and boys? Hmmmm.

Well, I don’t have the answer. So what do I do in the meantime with this beautiful girly girl? I think I’ll sit back and enjoy this wonderful journey. After all, it’s never too late to learn how a girly girl thinks. And actually, it’s kind of cool.

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Grant is One Today

By: Davida Grant

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Oh how I love thee, let me count the ways.

I’ve tried, but I can’t find the right words to express the love I feel for my son. He has captivated me in a way that frankly defies logic. His stare, his smile, his laugh, his demeanor, his inquisitive nature — they mesmerize me. I adore every inch of him.

I am so blessed and highly favored to be the mother of this dear, sweet boy. Grant, I love you with all of me and I look forward to being with you every step of the way as you blossom, spread your wings, and one day fly.  Happy Birthday!

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Baby Girl is 4 Today

By:  Davida Grant

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My darling, the most beautiful girl in the world, is 4 today.  I’m overjoyed to celebrate her birthday.  Simone is turning into such a little lady and I couldn’t be more proud.

Yesterday, we did her hair and went to one of her favorite stores to pick out a dress and new shoes for her special day.  Simone was all smiles.  “Mommy, I’m 4.” She said.  “Yes you are my darling.  Yes you are.”

I woke up practically giddy this morning.  Simone absolutely loves her birthday and today assuredly will be filled with hugs, kisses, and lots of laughter.  Not surprisingly, the phone started ringing off the hook, as everyone wanted to wish her a happy birthday.  Neither of us could stop smiling.

So how will Simone celebrate her special day?  Well, Simone has lots of plans in place.  She’ll spend the morning and early afternoon with some friends attending a festival.  She’ll get to go on a pony ride and have her face painted.  I can’t wait to hear all about it.  Later, the family — all five of us for once — will get together for dinner, cake and ice cream.

On my way into the office, I reflected on the things I love and adore the most about my baby girl.  And since she is 4 today, I will share 4 with you.

1.  She is dramatic.  I love this about my girl.  She’s such an actress.  The hubby and I never know what to expect.  She keeps us on our toes.  And where does she get all that dramatic flair?  Need I say more.

2.  She has such a caring nature.  Whenever I’m sad, she reaches out to comfort me.  She has such a tender heart.  When I’m down, she finds a way to bring me out of my funk.

3.  She’s such a girly girl.  I love this about Simone.  She’s all about dresses and shoes and tea parties and baby dolls.  I’d love her no matter what, but I can’t stop smiling when I see all these girly ways.

4.  She loves her brothers.  Simone is on fire for both of her brothers.  I couldn’t say that 6-months ago.  The way she envelops them now, especially Grant, simply warms my heart.

I could go on and on.  Simone has taught me what it truly means to love another more than myself.  She’s helped me to truly understand God’s love for us.  And to think, as much as I love Simone, God loves her even more….

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Play Time with Mommy

By:  Davida Grant

Making time to play with your child is a no brainer, right?  If you’d asked me a few days ago if I play with my kids a lot, I would have said, “yes,”  and I would have meant it.  But in actuality, I don’t play with my infant and toddler a lot.  Rather, I surround them with toys, games and other things and basically stay in the vicinity and watch them play together.  Sure, there’s some interaction here and there, but that’s not really playing though.

I didn’t realize it until the other night.  Grant had a late nap and was wide awake at 9 p.m.  He was cooing and babbling something fierce.  It was delightful.  I picked him up and we started playing.  We mimicked each other, we practiced walking, I tickled him over and over, we played with his toys together, and on and on.  This was probably over the course of an hour.  I honestly can’t tell you the last time (if ever) that I spent a solid hour just playing with him.  It was the best.  I don’t think I’ve ever felt as close and connected to him as I did that evening.

Admittedly, during the week, an hour of play time is not a possibility.  There’s literally an 1.5 to 2 hour timeframe in the evenings for me to get EVERYTHING done.  But, this eye-opening experience made me realize that it’s so important for me to make the time to play with him one-on-one on a daily (or frequent) basis, even if it’s just 15 or 20 minutes.  Time is moving so fast….

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